Well i am at the point again where i am going to try DD in child care 1 day a week.
I will be at home (as i work weekends) so it isnt like i am being forced to have her in cc for work reasons.
I want her to be able to have a hint of independence from 100% mummy time (especially with #2 due in 10 weeks) and get to socialise with children her own age.
I went there today and have mixed emotions (might be preg hormones not sure).
* All the children in her group were sick, snotty and coughing.. and with DD fighting flus and chest infections all this winter she is finally feeling a little better and i was thinking oh no.....
* She coped well and was clingy at some stages to me but this really doesnt worry me too much as this is one of my reasons for her in care - to get some independence.
* The group leader said that Children that only go 1 day a week find it harder to transition or cope as it isnt such a regular thing for them.. and this is all i am wanting to put her in for
So i guess my question is:
If you didnt have to put your children into CC - would you?
Have you? And how did it go?
Was it a positive experience for you and bub?
PLEASE NOTE : I have posted a while back about cc and my choice to put her in to get some support and feedback and recieved a far bit of 'HATE PRIVATE MESSAGES' and posts from other members telling me how lucky i should be to 'have a choice' etc etc and that i am rubbing it into mothers that work (although i work part time only not monday-fridy 9-5 type of job)... So if you have the urge to post anything like this, comments not constructive nor supportive - i ask you to not do so as i dont need it right now
I'm a full time SAHM, and I have Nina in daycare 2 times a week. I initially did this when she was 6 months old as I work went back to work on those days. But I'm not working at the moment, and I'm not sure if I'm going back, but I have kept Nina in. The main reasons I keep Nina are these:
~ socialising. We have a few friends with other toddlers/kids which we know, but we don't get a chance to see them often as they work.
~ I need a break to catch up on the housework, errands etc.
~ It gives me one on one time with Emily. As I get this one on one time Emily during the week, on the weekends, I make sure I give Nina one on one time as well.
So they are my reasons. It's a very personal choice. Make sure you are completely happy with the decision you make, and make it by yourself. Don't let others POV affect your decision. It's not their life, it's yours. You need to do what's best for you.
I put Cooper in 2 days a week when I was working now I am not but I wouldnt change it, it has helped us both so much, him to gain some independence and time with children his own age as well as learning to adapt to change ect, and me some time to do what I need to do stress free. I cant believe some people were rude you though in the end it is your decision and comes down to what suits you and your family.
Opps.... ETA didn't answer your original question: I would. I need some time emotionally and mentally for myself that I don't get when I work weekends. Now that Jovie is older I feel comfortable with what we are doing.
Jovie is in Family Day Care and that was all I was comfortable with. She's going 2 days a week and atm I'm working those days, but most of the time I work 1 day a week rather than 2, so I have 1 day without Jovie and Matilda. Matilda is 4 and goes to Montessori 3 days a week. She goes 1 day because of me working, 1 day for me to catch up and get things like grocerys done with Jovie (for other reasons....) and 1 day for me to have a day off both girls. Like I said the last 4 weeks and the next 4 weeks I'll be working all of those days.
BUT I needed it when I was pregnant with Jovie, to have at least 1 day off the strain, physically and mentally.
My kids have had 2 - 3 days daycare since they were 11 months old - when I was preg with DD (#2)- I kept DS in 2 days a week the whole time I was on mat leave and I think it helped keep a bit of normality for him too.
This time DS is at school, but I will keep DD in 3 days a week until the dust has settled after #3 arrives and then drop her back to 2 days. I need to keep a spot for her for next year when I need it for July and going back to work part-time if plans fall into place. Also, I figure I had 1 on 1 time with #1 and #2 and want the same with #3. And like you, we can afford it luckily with paid mat leave and baby bonus etc.
1 day is a harder transition I think - but depends on your child too.
I remember when I first went looking at centres and all kids seemed to have runny noses etc - but it hasn't been too bad at all (except for conjunctivitis - I HATE conjunctivitis) ....
I had my kids in childcare last year. I didn't have to and only did it for the social side of things. Thing only reason i took them out is because it was getting too expensive. I want to put DD back in but may need to find a cheaper option. It'll give me a nice break anyhow since i'm pregnant and have no energy. I think it is totally up to you what you do.
Personally no.. We did try it with Ds 2 at the end of last year but he was just so upset and so was I.. and he only went for 4 hours for 3 weeks in a row..
I wanted him to get used to being separate from us as he has school next year and is rarely looked after by anyone but myself or DH..
I have heard one day simply isn't enough but I wasn't emotionally able to do it anymore then that...
I think it is always a good idea to give it a go.. plus you work weekends and with baby 2 on the way you deserve some time to yiurself as well kwim?
If you didnt have to ..... would you???
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