Just want opinions - not going to change the decision, but just want to know what other people think really. (Am I too nosy? - bad enough thinking about you, but want you to think about me then tell me what you think... anyways...)

I've not been overly happy with DS's nursery for a while now. OK, the greatest carer ever (T) has been promoted and now manages the second site, has done now for a year and a half. Then the second greatest carer ever (B) missed her family in the Americas and moved back to be with them (this Easter). Then a fantastic part-time carer (N) ended her contract - a natural end, she was covering maternity leave (three months ago).

But DS isn't thrilled to go to Nursery any more. He only wanted to go on days N was there of late. He likes his best mate, but no-one else really. Seems to spend all his time getting dirty - great in one way, but no intellectual stimulation from what I can tell. The manager of the centre and the owner's son seem to have a love-in every day (B used to complain about how they carried on in front of the kids!), the manager is now separating from her husband. Her three children attend (two are at school, so attend after school and the son is a really bad influence on the others) and quite frankly I'm not comfortable with it. Neither is DS's best mate's mum.

DS was bitten last month. It happens. I wasn't angry. But DS has been very angry at nursery ever since. And Nursery have made it my problem. I'm the one who spends all my free time talking to DS about his behaviour there. He isn't an angel, but he is fairly well behaved. He's polite and kind and shares well - very well for a 3yo only child! Other parents tell me how great DS is. It isn't my presence: he's well-liked at Sunday School and when my sister steals him for the day. DS is still upset that this other boy "ate" him, and plays up for attention. Then I get the stress every pick-up.

Tonight, I just had it. Before I see my son I am told he has been naughty. I am over dealing with their mess. I asked DS if he wanted a new Nursery, he shouted "yes!" and hugged me. Rang his mate's mum (E), she's going to move with us. Going to move to the other centre with T if possible, but going to move.

The three adults here (me, DH, E) are all angry that this Nursery is taking lovely children and they are picking up very bad behaviour (manager's son is a bad role model too). They don't seem to do anything with the children - DS is covered in felt tip again today (which is naughty therefore my problem) and spends most of his time rolling in the dirt. I'm not paying them to teach algebra or Latin, but letters would be nice! He can do the first letter of his own name and I did that with him. He can count well, but I spend a lot of time counting with him. I just really do expect more, and we all feel that we're paying a lot of money for nothing much. Not so bad when they're little, but not for a pre-school. Also, they listen to commercial radio. Not children's CDs, just dodgy music (I don't let DS listen to popular music about sex etc, don't see why Nursery should!).

Anyway, your thoughts on the decision to move DS to a new nursery please. And is it bad that I ring E and tell her - so she can move her son with DS! (She told me the main reason she was staying was because Liebs and her son are such mates.) I think that may be a breach of ettiquette a bit. What do you think?