rayray - i'm not sure of Milo's personality, but from what i can gather, most kids are pretty resiliant - and it's better to start putting them in multiple places early so they don't get too set with the one thing (just from what i've seen) - he might be a bit unsure for a while, but he'll get used to it pretty quickly. i wouldn't pull him from the place he's at for now for the fact that they DO have the program you're happy with - and you can always put your name down for the fourth day there in case it opens up - use FDC as your "back up" til you know how he's coping with it

FWIW - FDC will have him exposed to far fewer children, and, in most cases, less activities due to it being home-based. it's great for fostering family environment and things, but doens't have as much socialisation with other kids (same kids all the time - more change in the centres) - my mum used to do FDC when we were kids and they very much got incorporated into our every day lives... not sure what it's like now though...