We dont' have kindy for kids that young but our Kindy will take children earlier than 4 (approx 3.5yrs) if they have speech delays or whatever as long as they have been professionally diagnosed.

Does your pre-kinder have teachers trained with helping her through her needs. Kameron has speech issues and is the same as you DD when he is expected to do something. He doesn't participate well in large groups so goes with a smaller group of children till he gains more confidence. Our kindy has fully qualified support workers that assist Kameron and other children on a daily basis.

I would say look into what they can do for her to help her first before you make your choice.

Love