Thanks so much for the support guys. It's killing me.

Sorry I forgot to add, I have tried asking him alot what he doesn't like about it, the only thing I have gotten out of him is that he doesn't like rest time (they have to lie down etc) as he's not slept during the day for a while now. I told the carers and on the whiteboard they put all the time when they sleep from and they write down that he had quiet play/reading time. So they are trying to help, I dont know if I should teach him that if he doesn't like something you can just change to something else, rather than hang in there but the fact its gotten like this I am just so confused. All the other kids look really happy and well adjusted. I might look into family day care but I really do see him being like this everywhere Never know unless I try I guess... will make some enquiries. Argh its so so hard.