I could not hold it in any longer and called and spoke with the director. she said she is happy to speak with teacher, but said i should bring it up friday which is his next day and she said she will follow up. but agrees she should not say that and its perfectly normal for kiddies his age to have accidents.. wonder whether teacher will fess up but i guess i will have better idea if i want to keep him there by her reaction anyway.
i moved him because he was not as happy with old kindy since he has had 3 new teachers in the past 4 months, so was feeling unsettled! before that i loved it and so did he.. im still there as he has been happy to go since the staff have been constant for the past several weeks but wanted to try another one and see which he prefers.