I'm a pretty calm person. I freak out less than DH, although he does have a cool head in a crisis.
For me, I focus on the practical. Not the things I can't control or don't know, but the logistics. I find that by focusing on the practical logistics of the situation my brain becomes busy with that and it gives me something to focus on.
When DS2 wasn't well at 10 weeks I suspected something was wrong and so made myself focus - what do I need to take to hospital, who will look after DS1 if I'm going to be a while, do I need the pram, where will be the best place to park, how will I get DH out of his meeting and up to meet me.
Turned out he had menningitis and I had done the right thing by taking him to the hospital. By focusing on the practical I made it happen that he got the care he needed and that's what was most important.
The first major thing we had happen was ds 2 seizing in hospital (newborn) and at home. All I did was cry and cry. I didn't know what to do. Dh was so calm
The second was ds 2 splitting his chin open. I remained calm. Rang dh at work and then while I waited for him I rang my mum. Now if I see lots of blood I'm like meh . Dd had 5 big blood incidents in 6 weeks. By the 3rd one I was calming others down. I knew it wasn't too serious.
But in saying that I don't know what I would do if there was a huge problem. I don't deal that well in a crisis. For example. Dd had a heart thing going on when she was 5 months. Long story but it ended with a shot of adrenaline and a ambulance ride to town. I honestly had no idea what was going on. It wasn't until we arrived at the hospital and I rang my mum that I started shaking and bawling. We came so close to losing her that day. It happened again 3 weeks later and while I was calm on the outside and doing everything I needed to do. I was shaking like a leaf.
Dh is my calm one and I always feel better if he is around to deal with any problems. I clean the blood. :/ he remains calm. He does what ever else needs doing.
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. Dd had 5 big blood incidents in 6 weeks. By the 3rd one I was calming others down. I knew it wasn't too serious. 
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