I'm a pretty calm person. I freak out less than DH, although he does have a cool head in a crisis.

For me, I focus on the practical. Not the things I can't control or don't know, but the logistics. I find that by focusing on the practical logistics of the situation my brain becomes busy with that and it gives me something to focus on.

When DS2 wasn't well at 10 weeks I suspected something was wrong and so made myself focus - what do I need to take to hospital, who will look after DS1 if I'm going to be a while, do I need the pram, where will be the best place to park, how will I get DH out of his meeting and up to meet me.

Turned out he had menningitis and I had done the right thing by taking him to the hospital. By focusing on the practical I made it happen that he got the care he needed and that's what was most important.