but on the topic of Circumcision, we had to get our 9 yo son done at teh begining of teh year, as his mother never taught him how to clean it, retract it properly so at 9 his foreskin was only 30% retracted when it should be around 80%, he continually wet the bed, had a constant niggling UTI which couldnt be fixed with medication,
Well, I can't say I would put the blame on her shoulders. No one told me that I had to teach my boys to or how to clean it. No one told me that they should or how to retract it. I still don't know, and at the moment the only information I have is - only the penis owner should clean it, so I get my 3yo to clean it himself with a baby wipe when changing a nappy.. But if they aren't going to routine circ anymore, wouldn't this information be important to tell new mums of boys at the hospital?

DH didn't know any of this either because he is circ'd. Believe me, it was utterly disturbing to find out 10 years later that I have done it all wrong with TWO of my boys... I still don't know if I am getting it right because the only information I can ever find is "leave it up to the penis owner".