SOOO over the cloth hate!

[isharathena]

I agree. Have never had to tackle this obstacle as we're yet to conceive, but a girlfriend of mine used MCNs for both her boys, and she loved them. But the mother of a mutual friend, who considers herself the authority on all things due to the fact she's a midwife, used to make comments left right and centre about "those stupid things". But for my friend, it was the most cost effective and appropriate option for her.
For the record, I have my partner sitting next to me and when I mentioned this to him he said, "Yeah, it's all about what works for YOU".

[ladybirdflies]

Sometimes I have found that people feel judged by your decisions so they have to defend themselves or name a reason why they are not doing cloth. It's ok to say you don't like them and I can't be bothered, just the same way it's ok for cloth users to say i love them and am not bothered by the so called 'extra work' A few tried and tested replies here for you:
A study at an Australian Uni(must find out which one??) found that using cloth compared to disposable took up an extra 10-15minutes per day!
Disposables and all the bags and wipes cost between $3000 - $5000 per child PER CHILD, I would like to keep my baby bonus for other things thanks.
Using disposables as written on the side of the packs, which clearly say get rid of the poo before disposing and dispose of nappy responsibly adds a fair bit of time to using them. It is ILLEGAL in Australia to place human waste in general rubbish, hmmmm imagine if that were policed!
THere is only ONE commercially compostable diposable nappy in the world, yes, that is right ONE brand, new to the market and designed in Australia, all the others are 'better' then huggies etc, but are not any better at reducing landfill, or composting as the tips are not made to break down these so called bio nappies. They are however a much healthier options for bubs, no chemicals against skin etc.

It s a personal choice to use cloth, that is up to you as a family, no need to be put down and told you won't succeed. we need to support each other to be the best parents we can be for our child.

I LOVE CLOTH by the way! And yes, there have been challenging days where I have turned to the throw away varities when they have been sick, or I am tired or its rained for three weeks. But a mojority of the time they are cloth bummed.
Nappy life of the child is a journey that changes before your eyes, favourite nappies etc. Just go with it, and allow yourself to be using cloth with room to move..... enjoy!

[starangelk]

We doubted ourselves too and got the same comments. One particularly played on my mind and that was "If you think it's so good for the environment, think of all that water you are wasting washing them!" The 6 days we were in hospital using disposables also made me a bit worried about coming home but we just jumped right into using the MCN's/prefolds and it became the norm. You are right, it is 1 extra load of laundry - no biggie. We have had virtually zero nappy rash and to be honest, we really hate disposables now. They leak, they don't fit properly and I don't feel like they breath. It's almost like putting a plastic bag on her little bum - horrible!! I am a massive cloth nappy fan clearly

[luna moth]

We doubted ourselves too and got the same comments. One particularly played on my mind and that was "If you think it's so good for the environment, think of all that water you are wasting washing them!"

Oh this one gets me soooooo bad! What do these people think their sposies are made from? Just because they're not seing the water used in the various factories that create their little crackly-bum accessories, they assume it doesn't exist!

I'm sick of being told what I "can't" do in general. Can't live without a car... (have done it for nearly two years, no big deal) Can't be vegan... (again, more than two years on, doing well) Can't keep cycling while pregnant... Definitely can't be vegan AND cycling while pregnant... Can't not see and ob for my entire pregnancy... Couldn't possibly come home from hospy within 48 hours...

Proving people wrong all the time is SO exhausting!

Anyway, thanks so much for all the support. We will be fine.

[*Beema*]

You are an amazing woman, to have to fight everyday to live the life that you chose, good on you for standing up for what you believe in and not lowering your standards .

With the cloth, oh when everyone else is complaing about having to pay for disposibles youw ill be laughing all the way to the bank on top of all the other bonuses of using cloth

[Nai]

Just think of the satisfaction you will get when you do prove them wrong yet again.

I actually had someone apologise to me when I said "remember when you said that I wouldn't be able to use cloth, well I did with DD1 for 3 years and now they are on DD2 and have been for over a year" She said "yeah sorry i shouldn't have said that and been a bit more supportive". I think that one comment blew all of the negative ones away

[Cherished]

I'm sorry hon but I just loved reading your hormone induced rant teheheeheheheh on a serious note forget about them! I think most people would actually love to use cloth if they weren't so lazy. I think they lack the energy to do it and everyone knows that they are the more economical and environmental way to go. Honestly I think they try to bring you down to make themselves feel better. I haven't started using my cloth nappies but I have to say that my bamboo prefolds are still my fav baby item!!! (sad I know) but I still don't know if cloth will work for me, if it doesn't there's no way I'd bag anyone else who uses them, what would be the point? To declare out loud that I failed at it and they haven't? In my logical mind that just doesn't make sense

[Fleur]

You are an amazing woman, to have to fight everyday to live the life that you chose, good on you for standing up for what you believe in and not lowering your standards .

Well said

I'm just coming in to throw in a bit of support I WISH I could use cloth but I am ashamed to say I can't keep up with our washing now - another load a day would kill me

Every now & again I think about it & then I walk into the laundry :O

But I actually feel guilty for using sposies.

So, I think you're awesome for being committed to living your values just tell them all to go blow eggs.

[~Hestia~]

Thanks for starting this thread! This is something that has been playing on my mind for ages - nice to read all the responses & feel not so alone! NO ONE I know IRL uses cloth.

It's getting to the point for me as a MCN user, I dread changing DS out, especially MG. I just know how the conversation is going to go & I'm tired of defending myself! I don't question any sposie user, but for reason everyone has to question me & my choice. I also find people will give me their excuses for not using cloth - as if I care! Or as a PP mentioned, being told that I'm good for using cloth. I'm not good, I'm just doing what I do just like any other parent out there.
Ah and the poo question! I always say "Well it's not different to using a sposie as you have to remove the poo before throwing it in the bin, don't you?" LOL

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest!

Oh and we used sposies while on a recent interstate holiday. We couldn't WAIT to get back home & get DS back into his cloth! The sposies smelled very chemically & we were so unco at putting them on him LOL!

[surprised]

Personally, I find doing an extra load easier than getting out to the bins every day! We can be a bit lazy with garbage! LOL

We used disposables at the very beginning, and got a few more when I was admitted to hospital for a couple of nights a month ago. You know what? DH now refuses to use anything but cloth, because when we use disposables we get heaps of leaks, while the MCNs contain even the biggest no 3s!

So have your cake and eat it too!

[luna moth]

With the cloth, oh when everyone else is complaing about having to pay for disposibles youw ill be laughing all the way to the bank on top of all the other bonuses of using cloth

Well, that's a funny thing to hear from the world's BIGGEST ENABLER! I'm surprised you didn't finish that with "Maybe you should go shopping and add to your stash. That'll make you feel better..."

Great comments on the poosplosions. That's awesome to hear, I had just expected it would be no different. And, honestly, I don't care about handling poo anyway. I've been doing it for 10 years on people that aren't even related to me, so whatevs!

And, yes, to everyone who said that hearing others' justifications for their choices, THAT is what is exhausting me. Because I live in this small margin of the population on soooo many issues, and I hear it all the damn time. And I'm pretty ready to say "You know what? I don't care! I'm awesome, I'm happy with that, you go do your thing, OK?"

Yeah. YEAH!

[sconeonamission]

Everyone has their own opinion on how and what for their baby. IMO whatever works for you - Go for it! I was so disappointed when ds toilet trained and night trained... I loved doing the washing and seeing all the nappies on the line. Was no extra hassle at all! The other mothers at MG loved the look of the mcn, but admitted they didn't want to use them. Each to their own! xx