Sorry I should have said, I don't rock him the whole time. I just can't hold him. I will try for a while, then let him play for 10 or 15 mins then try again. I try to keep his play quiet & contained but it is very difficult. He also gets excited if he sees DH. I can't believe how similar our babies are . I can't even read to DS as he just wants to eat the books! Last night - 3 and a half hours! He was soo tired so I started the bedtime routine - dinner (he had 2 mouthfuls then didn't want it), bath (screamed as soon as I put him in so just a quick wipe down), bottle (pushed it away everytime) then he just kept crying and crying. He cried when I put him down & immediately wanted to be back up. Then he'd struggle to get back down. Repeat over & over. I tried everything. Eventually, I tried to give him something to eat again, finally he stopped crying & took it. Aaargh I just wanted to scream but had to try & stay relaxed to keep him calm. He had a short play then finally went to sleep, in my arms. He bites & scratches too. I really don't know what to do with him. Maybe it is separation anxiety because I think he's worse on the days that I work.
As for other people - I don't tell them what we do & I just ignore CC comments. Smile & nod. Then do it my own way. If they ask if he's a good sleeper, I just say he normally sleeps pretty well unless something's wrong. - it's true, but not specific. The only people who know we rock him to sleep are other people that have to look after him, my mum, MIL & daycare.
Glad you're finding it a bit easier the last few days.
HI attc, i cant be much help as I am going through the exact same thing at the moment and my son sounds exactly like your boy, he would be nearly asleep and then he pops up all hypo and laughing, ggggrrrrrr. I can really feel your pain. Zarius wont actully have his bottle at bed time now. as soon as i walk out he throws it then totaly cracks a nanah and sreams the whole town down. its only been happening for the last month. I have been trying lavender bath time stuff and it just seems to refresh him, even though his eyes are red as anything! as i am writing this to you at 7pm he is sitting on the couch watching tv chewing on his toothbrush. It doesnt matter how long DH and sit with him on the couch its totaly up to him when he feels like going to sleep. I have been trying the whole controled crying thing but it just makes him worse and i feel terrible and it causes dramas between me and DH. oh i hope you can get some sleep and find out a change that works for you. good luck and i will be keeping an eye out for you and for myself too about any ideas
DS has gotten a bit better at night, but mostly I think I've just adapted!
I just go with the flow more and don't worry about trying to get him to bed 'earlier'. I just wait until he's looking quite tired, then we go into our routine. It still takes about 30-45 mins to get him asleep, and may include a number of feeds, ending with some rocking (!?).....but, I haven't had to resort to bringing him back into the lounge and TV though - so its improving!
. I can't even read to DS as he just wants to eat the books! Last night - 3 and a half hours! He was soo tired so I started the bedtime routine - dinner (he had 2 mouthfuls then didn't want it), bath (screamed as soon as I put him in so just a quick wipe down), bottle (pushed it away everytime) then he just kept crying and crying. He cried when I put him down & immediately wanted to be back up. Then he'd struggle to get back down. Repeat over & over. I tried everything. Eventually, I tried to give him something to eat again, finally he stopped crying & took it. Aaargh I just wanted to scream but had to try & stay relaxed to keep him calm. He had a short play then finally went to sleep, in my arms. He bites & scratches too. I really don't know what to do with him. Maybe it is separation anxiety because I think he's worse on the days that I work.
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