As the title suggests we are having trouble with DD and her night sleeps. During the day you put her in her cot with the dummy and seahorse (that plays music) and she settles quietly. I have watched her and she just sings talks to herself before falling to sleep. Night time is a whole different matter.

This only used to happen when she had teeth coming through but has now progressed to every night.

She starts to scream before you even put her in her cot. Leaving her cry does my head in and takes longer to settle her down if I leave her (plus I hate hearing her cry). I used to just get her up for 10 more minutes then try again especially when she was younger and that used to work. But now when you put her in the cot she is screaming and pointing that she wants out of the room. I have tried sitting with her, rubbing her back etc but that only seems to make it worse. Her bed time has blown out from 830 to 10pm. I know part of the problem is that she is over tired and I try to start her routine as I see her tired signs (usually just before). I don't mind what time she goes to sleep, especially if it means that she has a relaxed bedtime.

Her routine (not that it works atm) is dinner, playtime, bath, quiet time with us, sippy cup of milk and cuddles before bed. We do the whole kiss daddy then she walks up to her room. Lift her into her cot and.... the screaming begins. Bedtimes are just becoming a stress and I don't want that. Especially as day sleeps are fine.

I should mention that we have tried to read to her but she throws the books away while you are trying to read.

Recent changes include her cot being moved about a foot into the corner and we dropped her last BF just before Christmas. We also go for a walk in the evenings now (because its the only time DH and I can walk together.)

I have people telling me I am too soft, going into her too quickly, let her cry it out etc. What can I do?
Please help. I am at the end of my tether and beginning to doubt myself