Co-sleeping with a boobaholic teether - I'm just quite tired...

[Melody7]

Hi Girls,

Thanks so much for your encouragment - it's just so helpful to know there are others going through the same thing!

Bubba still has no teeth, however the super-frequent wakings have eased in the last week. I'm trying the "Pantley Pull-Off" and it works early in the evening, however, DS still wants to frequently feed in the morning hours (well, it feels that way - I haven't managed to see the time on the clock!).

We'd love another bubba at some stage, however I don't want to wean DS just yet so I'm feeling a bit in a rock and a hard place atm (lots of night feeds = no AF = no baby #2!).

Well, he'll be 1 soon so perhaps after that I'll gently ease him off some of the night feeds.

Does anyone co-sleeping manage to just sleep with bubba without feeding? (Elizabeth Pantley said she did). Love some tips if anyone has any!

Thanks

[Haydies]

Does anyone co-sleeping manage to just sleep with bubba without feeding? (Elizabeth Pantley said she did). Love some tips if anyone has any!

Yes, me too please!

[Melody7]

Ooo Haydies! We'll both wait and see if someone has some gold-nuggets of advice for us! If not, I might have to start a new thread!

[jackrose]

We are going through the same thing here, 8 months old and trouble with the co-sleeping. For me it has been going on since about 5/6 months when a combination of teething and then a trip away seemed to throw DD's sleeping patterns out of whack and led her to begin to associate sleeping with my boob. I posted about it and got some good advice (https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...leep-help.html), however, I have not managed to completely solve the problem yet.

It is hell though, the waking every hour or two. At worst we were waking every 30 min here where DD would rouse from sleep and cry for the boob only to fall asleep again without really feeding just comfort sucking, then rouse again within the hour>

My advice is you either have to just roll with it if you can and hope that they will grow out of it (has anyone found that has worked for them??) or try to help your DS learn better sleeping habits, ie find a way to self settle back to sleep.

We decided to go for the latter as my DH and I were at our wits end with no sleep and based on the fact that they shouldn't need a night feed after 5 months (apparently!). Unfortunately for us that meant she is now out of our bed as she finds the smell of me and my proximity too upsetting if she can't have access. It is getting better, after a horrible few nights we are now down to 2 feeds a night. So now we now settling her to sleep in her hammock, getting up to feed once during the night and then co-sleeping from the second feed of the night in the early hours. I can't completely let go of co-sleeping!

So I basically had to succumb to my own version of comfort crying... It didn't appear too traumatic for her and we feel more human again.

HTH

[Haydies]

It is hell though, the waking every hour or two. At worst we were waking every 30 min here where DD would rouse from sleep and cry for the boob only to fall asleep again without really feeding just comfort sucking, then rouse again within the hour

O.o I didn't know you were sleeping with my daughter. I've tried once letting her cry a little bit while I was cuddling/comforting her, trying to get her to go back to sleep without the boob. Horrible hour for both of us. If I'm there, she wants the boobs. And just like you said above, most times it's just a quick suck and she's back asleep.

I love DD beyond anything I could ever imagine, but I'm struggling with no sleep.

[jackrose]

Hee Hee, Haydies! Its weird when you read your own story in someone else's post isn't it? And somewhat comforting.

Now... we just need the the solution...??.!!

Melody7, Thanks for the suggestion of the pantly pull-off, I hadn't heard of it before and have been looking it up and will give it a go. It does sound much nicer than letting her cry... (Its not really what you had in mind by starting this thread, giving all the advice rather than getting it!)

Haydies, It is a terrible hour isn't it? That sob and cry just goes right through you, straight to the heart. Still, I must admit if you can just get one good night sleep, everything feels much more manageable, and in a way, it may be worth doing anything to get that sleep... Now we feel a little more under control, I feel more able to approach this problem with a clear head.

Melody7, what about calling a sleep school for advice? Or try putting your son on your DH's side of the bed after a feed. I had a friend that this worked for as her son was not distracted by her presence and slept much better. With all of these methods, I think it still means a few nights of distress as we attempt to change their expectations and patterns.

[Haydies]

Problem I have though, is that most nights, I wake up long enough to get us aligned so she can attach, and then I'm back asleep lol. It's only the times like now, when I'm going to blame teething lol, that causes the problems. I'm not used to actually being 'awake' over night, and certainly not every hour.

[YoYo]

OMG this is me ATM...thankfully teeth are through now..hope it changes!