Tilda - You're NOT doing every thing wrong! Man, I hate it so much with so-called experts make mums feel that way. What do they know? They've never even met your baby!

Anyway, sorry.
My DS was the same at that age. It's a developmental thing. The BEST thing to do is probably exactly what you're doing - ie, whatever works best to get you and your baby the maximum possible rest. One other thing you could consider is bringing your baby to bed earlier. It won't make things worse. Sometimes babies just need that constant reassurance and the best thign to do is to give it to them. it does not set them up with life-long sleep 'problems' or bad habits or anythign like that. I co-slept msot of the time between 8-18 months out of sheer necessity. I only wish I'd started sooner rather than doing the up-down thing all night long. With DS antying going on developmentally or physically (illness or teething for eg) will upset his sleep and leave him needing mum or dad for comfort. It's just the way he is and nothing can change that.

DS is in his own bed now. He sleeps there just fine most of the time. yeah, he still wakes some nights. And if he's sick he ends up in bed with me. It's no big deal. It won't ruin him, it's just what he needs. Some kids don't need that. It's ok. You've just got to do whatever your child needs you to do.

All the best for getting some rest