Another update...

BUtterfly Dawn, we did just that and moved my ueen bed away from his to the other side of the room. HE was still waking about 3 times a night and I was still getting up with him and making a milk then going to bed with him.

ONe thing that changed without warning (we still can't work out how it happened) was that the routine to put DSto bed changed. We used to lay with him for ages until he fell asleep then creep out of the room. IT would take ages. NOw DP and I do the same thing, we say @its time for bed@ and DS kisses the other parent goodnight and we walk to bed, he gets into his bed, we tuck him in, sing him a fe nursery rhymes then say @ok, time for sleep, i love you, good night, see you in the morning and we leave him in bed awake. HE falls asleep on his own. AMAZING! No crying, not tantrums. HE's been doing this for two weeks now.

So i go to bed in DP's bed now and sleep until DS wake. I go in and get him and we make a milk, i take him back to bed and lay him in his bed. SOMetimes he fusses and cries and rists. SOmetimes he wants me to hold him for a bit. Eventually he does lay down (the first night it took about an hour of sitting with him as he cried). And I sing nursery rhymes, sit with him for a bit. MOst nights I have been waiting for him to fall asleep before going back to bed, last night I was able to leave him to resettle himself without tears.

ITs only been about 5 nights and its a work in progress but so far DS is responding well. EVery time he wakes and I go in to him, he is one step closer to falling asleep on his own i.e. for the first nigh he woul get out of bed and walk to his door and now when he wakes he doesn't get out of bed.

I will keep updating this thread, as I reckon I willrefer back to it in the future for reassurance that things can and do change with time