tried the cat in the bedroom, he just screamed so i layed down in bed next to him, he stuck arms and legs and face through the cot bars and banged his head against them til i eventually picked him up. it is now clear to me that i am having a power struggle with him (already!!) he is not scared, he just knows that he has me wrapped around his little finger, so its time for me to get tough! Not leaving him to scream or anything, just go in there when his cry gets upset and pst him then walk out, kept doing that for 2 nights and he slept through last night thank goodness.

thanks for all ur help