Crazy Lady - thanks for the suggestions. We don't have the TV on at night, but could definitely turn the lights down lower - that's a great idea. Have had other people recommend the Brauers, will have a look for it.

HannahD- that's really interesting that your DD doesn't go to sleep as well when you want to get up and do things. They're pretty clever, aren't they? When I tell him no more songs or stories, that's when he loses it - I think because he knows it's really, really sleep time then. I talked to him at nap time today about how he's a big boy now, and he can have one song and then it's sleepytime. He seems to respond quite well to being told he's a big boy, so I might use that one a bit more.

Snacks - I like your idea of telling him it's two songs or stories, and then time to lie still. He will definitely protest, but if he knows how many he's getting in advance it might help him to accept it. Thanks for the reassurance that it can work out with a sleep-resisting toddler and a new baby. I guess we will get through it

Sunshine - thanks! Good luck with getting your sleep issues sorted out too.

RumpledElf - that is actually very reassuring to know that the screaming has passed for your DD. I have to remind myself that this will all pass, and one day he will put himself to sleep without crying.

It's past bedtime now, and we've been at the playground with friends for over two hours, so hopefully DS will be so exhausted that sleep will come a little more easily tonight.

Thank you all for taking the time to read and respond. It's so nice to get some suggestions and reassurance.

HB
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