I would seek out a sleep school hon. They will teach you about sleep patterns and explain when to night and when to encourage self settling. Do you have the child health line number? I am not sure if I can post it but I will pm it to you. If not it is in the contacts of your red book you would have been given when bub was born.
DD2 was a constant night waker and she did not sleep through till 9months old, but by 6 months we started teaching her to self settle. However at 9 months her waking was only for a feed and then straight back to sleep. Yes I we did let her cry for a bit (not long and not until she was screaming). I stopped talking to her and just kept going back into the room to put her down. I did not put the light on and I did not make eye contact. Actually this worked best when DH did it...So I would tell your partner that her part of parenting is much needed at this time and you need her help...Just because she doesn't feed doesn't mean she can't parent iykwim.
HTH's you....btw this process worked for within a week.
my sister was in a simular situation when her daughter was younger & she went to the Riverton family centre (now called Ellen Barron Family Centre) im pretty sure its in chermside or near there but it maybe worth a try
How are things going Leasha? I only just saw this post and skimmed over it, so apologies if I repeat something already said.
We have only in the last week or so, started to sleep for apprix 3 hours stretches at a time! I felt like we tried everything too.
I have had the Riverton Sleep school suggested to me, which babi gurl has already told you they are now called, the Ellen Barron Family Centre. I did a search on here for the Riverton sleep school and wasn't too fussed with what I read. I think it may be controlled crying? So neither DH or I are too eager to get our butts down there.
I have started to use our sleep sheep again (it had flat batteries and a tired mummy keeps forgetting to buy some when at the shops lol) and am finding that DS is getting a little easier to put down if it is switched on.
Can't offer any more advice really..sorry. DH and I keep telling ourselves that it will get better..pity we didn't know when that would actually be happening hey!
Also, what has saved me heaps of times, is DH sitting up with DS when he flat out refuses to go to sleep. My DH gets up at 4am for work, and gets home at 7pm. When he jumps in the shower, most times he will take DS with him as well. If dinner is running behind, he might help out with that, and one night he even stayed up till 11pm to clean the kitchen for me...So, Shell can help out. especially when you are so frazzled by everything. I find it hard to switch off when DS sleeps, I'm always wondering if there is something I'm not doing right or can I do it better or differently...then I get an hours sleep and he is awake lol! hope things are improving since you posted
Just a reminder to everyone, that this is in a Comforted sleeping NO-CRY sleep solutions section. Any advice that suggests using techniques (or going to sleep schools that recommend techniques) that go against this philosophy by allowing your baby to cry are not appropriate in this thread.
Thanks everyone, somehow I managed to lose this thread.
I didn't realise that the sleep school was controlled crying, defiantely not interested in that!!!!!
Our sleep is still going nowhere fast, but no I'm not willing to try controlled crying and TBH I'm not ready to move her to her own room either. I am trying to pat her back to sleep but most nights it won't work so I don't really know what else to do apart from ride it out.
Non sleepers here too. DS didn't sleep through until well after 2 yrs old. Kayla still wakes around 4 times between 7 & 7. She actually often gets up again in the evening to play.. it's either this or she wakes at 3am and can't sleep again.
Are you sure she isn't teething or something? I've found the discomfort of teething has woken Kayla up more frequently than usual, but I never know until after the fact, coz I suddenly see the teeth cutting, but she hasn't been upset by it in any other way, just disturbed sleep. She has other signs such as dribbling & chewing, but she doesn't show discomfort, just doesn't give me any sleep! Oh, she is a bit harder to settle and screams sometimes trying to get her to sleep, but I still don't "get" it until the teeth show.
*hugs* Do try to catch up on some sleep. Even just one nap can energise you to cope with the night waking much better.
Hi Liz,
I'm pretty sure at least some of it is teething, which doesn't make it easier but I am a little more patient with her and I try to remember that she'd probably rather be sleeping as well.
xxx
I feel for you !
We used to live on the Sunshine Coast and i had a terrible time with DS#2
I have just looked in the back of his health record book - Riverton in Brisbane may be able to help- 24hrs - (07) 38622333 (current?)
Leasha, Does Jaz like noise? WIth DS, we found that he needs some background noise when he sleeps. He has his air con on at night time, but we started using the sleep sheep again and it is (most nights) helping him settle a bit easier.
It is a toy sheep, and it has 4 sounds, a heartbeat, the ocean (sounds like waves rolling in) rain and our favourite, whales.
I searched on the net till I found the best priced one. I got it from "Baby's got Style" for $49.95, they have a smaller version for $10 less, but it has one sound that is different. It has a velcro strap so you can strap it to the outside of their cot or pram if you want to take it out and about.
We ended up buying one after seeing it on the channel 9 Extra show on in the arvo's. It has a timer with it as well, so you can switch it to run for 20 something minutes or 40 mintues then it turns itself off.
The unit that contains the batteries and sound can also be pulled out if you want to hide it somewhere, like under a pillow or mattress.
Anyway, don't want to sound like I'm harping on about it. It's just nice for us to have something that will help us to comfort him after how long we wrestle with him most nights!
Hows this? I read your original post and thought: How lucky, she slept through up till Christmas..
DS got worse from around 6 months too. The really bad times lasted about 6 weeks. Then we started co-sleeping and things got better. Had a couple of good weeks... and then he started teething. Mostly I'm just trying to ride it out - it's gotta get better.
Are you feeling quite resentful toward Shel about this...? Cause I probably would be in your situation. I could punch my DH sometimes when he tells me about how tired he is... But it's my problem really cause I don't let him get up for DS anymore cause DS just wants boobies and they'd both be up for hours whereas I can get him back to sleep quickly. Am now mentally preparing myself for night weaning once he's 12 months... maybe...
Really do hope she settles down for you...
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hope things are improving since you posted
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