OK, so I think the time has come to cut out feeding DS to sleep for his day sleep.

I don't know how to go about it though - Sleeping like a baby says to gradually take him off before he falls asleep, but if I try to disconnect him he gets really upset.

Until Monday I was feeding him while I surfed the net, now his race car bed is here I lie down on it with him (same as night - we've just moved from my bed to his since Monday). At night he doesn't fall asleep on the boob, but gets on & off and eventually rolls over and goes to sleep.

My reasons aren't that good from DS's POV - We need to get going on TTC #2 (AF hasn't returned yet), I want to stop expressing at work - I'm not getting much anymore and he isn't fed to sleep 2 or 3 day sleeps a week - childcare pat him to sleep (I think they're still doing this haven't checked recently) and he falls asleep in the car or pram if we're out at sleep time.

I think part of my problem is I don't have any other settling techniques in my arsenal - I try to pat him to sleep (and he joins in wacking his own bot), but end up giving up and bring out the big guns as it were. Can anyone help with gentle techniques to settle a toddler?

Thanks - sorry its so disjointed.