FF and Co-Sleeping...

[~Belinda~]

Do you think it's wrong for your Bub to FF and co-sleep with you? I have heard co-sleeping is good for BF mothers but my little one doesn't BF. She loves to sleep with me...she'll go down straight away at 10pm and won't wake until 6am. I'm afraid she won't go in her cot down the track however...part of me loves her sleeping with me!! I love being close with her.

I always think about other countries and how babies are with their mothers for so long, in a sling, by their side when they sleep etc....is it just our culture that is so strict on baby being in their own cot in their own room from when they come home from hospital?

Anyway....just interested on other people's thoughts on the subject...

[Emma1979]

hi there
i think a baby should sleep where ever she sleeps best... and if thats in a cot in her own room so be it, likewise with in the bed with her mummy...

i used to think the same thing about non western cultures and how much 'easier' it would be as it would be the norm to carry bubs about all day long and have her sleeping next to you.... i suppose i didn't factor in poverty and all the rest that goes with it alot of the time...

i think it would be wonderful if western society could strike some sort of balance but in a lot of cases i guess its not practical for mums of today to have their babies attached to them 'at the hip', there's so much to do (all of our material luxuries need maintenance like washing, house keeping, errands etc), and often mums have paid work too....

i fantastise about running off and living on an island and having nothing but me and bubs and daddy.... hehe

ps i used to on occassion cosleep too with my formula fed bub, i just did whatever worked at the time..... enjoy it while u can as she may become more independant then you will be longing for the snuggly days in the big bed with her!!

[~Belinda~]

Emma, I loved your post...thanks for your thoughts etc.

I loved particularly what you wrote about a deserted island, reminded me of that movie, "BLUE LAGOON"......!

[Janie]

I don't see why not hun! If you both love it, then keep on enjoying it FF bubs still love their mums and want to be near them! Cosleeping is such a lovely bonding time.

I think people talk about BFing and cosleeping simply because of the advantages re.sleeping while feeding (or at least lying down while feeding). I don't think there's anything else to it.

[sushee]

Hell yeah, you can FF and co-sleep! They are not interdependant at all! Co-sleeping is a great way to bond with your baby, and there is nothing to say you have to either BF or FF before you can co-sleep.

Enjoy your snuggle time with your baby. They're only small for such a short time, so follow your instincts, the body contact with her doting mum will do wonders for her and for you!

[~Belinda~]

Thanks Sushee...I just love sleeping with her but my DP sometimes gets worried that I'm setting a bad habit and he's worried that she'll be in our bed until she's 4! But that doesn't worry me, he's softening up as time goes on mind you, especially now she is smiling so much at him, I think he goes weak at the knees!!! Men hey...

Thanks for your advice, she hates her cot!