Aww hun! big hugs! Please dont feel guilty as hard as it is not too! You are doing a fabulous job!

I too worry about Myles when i leave him to grizzle a bit, and all i see is the Science of parenting page with the stress level stuff on it lol! I dont think 30 secs of grizzling will do much iykwim! I am sure she is fine!

I think she is self settling but we cosleep too so i have no idea if that is right! Maybe its not guilt but sadness thats she doesnt really need you all that much anymore when going to bed? To me it sounds like you have given her a beautiful safe environment and she is very happy!

Try to relax and go have your diet coke!

HTH a little xxxx