Or at least it feels like it!

DS is 19 months old, has never slept through and since 6 months old has woken every 1-2 hours every single night. A lot of his issues were teething, and possibly reflux from 10-15 months old. It took us 6 months of waiting to get a pediatrician appointment to look into it (stupid public waiting system!), which was a few weeks ago and he said it was likely reflux with the issues he had back then. Things have slowly improved though (with regards to the reflux symptoms, not sleeping) in the time we were waiting so he didnt feel the need to look into it further. (and I had seen our doctor numerous times in that 6 months of waiting, each time I mentioned reflux he said to wait for the pediatrician appointment. I also saw 2 other dr's who said the same thing.)

I just feel like I am at the end of my sanity. I feel like I am not coping, but I am as I am getting through each day itms. DS will only settle for me at night, and only if I breastfeed him. I tried last week to settle him without a feed, and he got hysterical and very very upset (it was much more than protesting, he was seriously rattled by it and I only tried for 10mins!). About 6 weeks ago he was down to 6 breastfeeds a day, and only waking 3 times overnight which was glorious!! It only last about 4 nights though, then he got sick. he was sick a couple of times over August, but has been well the last 2 weeks. But he is feeding CONSTANTLY. He will pull a boob out during the day and latch on if I let him, even if he had it 20mins ago. He is waking hourly overnight, sometimes more. Last night he woke 4 times in an hour. Tonight he has been in bed 3 hours and has woken 4 times already. His day sleeps are practically not existent, he is lucky to sleep an hour. Sometimes (its 50/50) I can feed him back to sleep for another 30-60mins but I have to stay next to him as he wakes if I take my nipple out his mouth. I am just getting very very exhausted from it all.

I have tried cutting dairy out of my diet, which I saw small differences with doing so, but again each time I bought it up with my dr's they said wait for the specialist appointment. So I would go back to having cows milk (he seems fine with yoghurt and cheese, he sleep gets worse if he drinks it straight) not knowing wtf I was doing, things would seem the same for a couple of weeks before slowly getting worse again. We are now again off cows milk, have been a couple of weeks but not noticing a difference yet (but I know it can take up a few weeks).

I just feel so lost. I know his waking could be a lot out of habit now, but i cant stop thinking about what if there is something else going on? I have no idea where to go though because I have asked and asked but been ignored! We have an allergist referral for something else (horse hair), can I ask them to test for other things too when I see them to discuss it? Would be good to know either way if there is something food wise setting him off.
Sleep school is out of the question, not only do I think atm it would be too traumatic for him, DP is dead set against it.

I am sorry this is so long and rambling, I just need to get it out and clear my head a little