Thanks so much everyone

I dont want to wean completely, just cutting a few night feeds out would help haha. We do co-sleep, I couldnt imagine not sharing a bed and trying to function during the day! DP is a .... bumhole to put it nicely about it all though. Massive blow up last night and this morning because he is demanding I wean him completely right now, and I just dont want to. I dont think DS is ready at all, but he thinks I'm doing it for an "ego" thing and that there are no benefits to him still breastfeeding (He doesnt believe a word I say, yet wont actually research it himself). I get that he is tired too, but telling me to "just stop it" or to "get formula in a bottle" isnt going to help! (He thinks by using a bottle he can get up to help and let me keep sleeping, he doesnt get though that DS has NO IDEA on how to use a bottle lol). We're going to try him settling DS once he is home from work (he finishes late) and see how we go. I dont mind feeding overnight, I know its normal to wake etc, but feeding 3-4 times in an hour gets too much sometimes :/

He unfortunately wont take a dummy, he self weaned from it at 9 months and I havent been able to get him to take one again. I tried again last night but you'd think I was trying to feed him poison by his reaction
We do have music playing, its on 24/7 as he doesnt sleep as well without it on. Its even become a sleep cue for me LOL.

He is easy enough to get to sleep, during the day he falls asleep feeding on me within minutes & at night we go to bed, I tell him a story then he feeds to sleep. Can take an hour sometimes to get him to sleep but he does eventually lol. Its the staying asleep thats the killer, and when he wakes during the day he clearly hasnt had enough sleep. I can do a jam-packed morning to tire him out, and it doesnt help at all.

It just gets frustrating when things seem to start getting better, and then bam they turn around again. Story of my life lol. I have been coping pretty well with it all, I mean my house is a dumpsite most the time because I cant keep up lol, but I feel like I am getting through. Just the last few days has been tough and gotten the better of me. Thank you so much for the support and advice, I will definitely be trying these suggestions. I'm glad I bit the bullet and posted as you are all so lovely