hun ive just started reading 'no cry sleep solution' by elizabeth pantley and it fantasic for feeding to sleep issues! you need to stop the 'feeding to sleep' association. i borrowed mine from the library in a hope that it will help me (slightly different issues)
Another crap night here . Am really struggling. Was in tears this morning. He was up at 4.30am - clearly still tired but would not go back to sleep no matter how much I tried.
I have put No Cry Sleep Solutions on hold at the library, hopefully I'll get it soon.
I have also started doing baby massage after DS's bath in the hopes of that doing something.
Sterla, you may have tried some of these things already but I just thought I'd ramble off the suggestions I've got in my head. Disregard them if you've already been there, done that!
Do you wrap him? Would that keep him more snug and secure IYKWIM?
What is he sleeping in? Cot, bassinet, cradle etc? Would he be feeling overwhelmed and nervous in a big cot and maybe thats waking him? When DS was born, my sister gave me a cuddlecot mattress, its a wool mattress to fit a bassinet but its actually mildly contoured, so DS gets a little snug spot in the middle with some shape around him, and feels a bit more secure I think.
Is there something in his room that could be distracting him? Maybe try and see things from his physical point of view and try and figure out if something might be worrying him.
I hope you get some more restful nights hun, good luck.
I've only just seen this. PM me your address. I will send you my book called Baby Bliss by Jo Ryan. Worked really well. We also have a sound machine in dd's room and I always put it on the heartbeat sound. It is very rhythmic and i even fall asleep to it.
To help stop the feed to sleep association with dd I started to offer water instead of boobie.
Does DS have a dummy?? This also helps DD get to sleep.
I will keep thinking...
In the mean time lots of big for you and sleepy vibes for DS
Can you go into his room when he is asleep and say " Honey, its just Mummy, I'm checking to see if you're ok. Sleep well Darling, I'll see you in the morning" to let him know that you are keeping an eye on him and he doesn't need to wake up to check on you?
I don't know if it works, but I'm trying it with my DD after my MCHN suggested it (she's fabbo BTW - a real do whatever works for you nurse).
DD is a little like your LO but we've turned a spare room into a safe playroom & put a mattress on the floor so when she wakes at the ungodly hour of 4.30am, we all go in there, we doze, she plays and when she is ready for sleep, she starts whinging and I grab her and pull her into bed. It works for us.
Have had such a crappy day from feeling so tired, and then feeling guilty cause I'm not playing with DS like I usually would . Then, to make matters worse he refused to have his afternoon sleep .
Ginger: I haven't tried the entire night with him in our bed, mainly because this would mean me having to go to bed at 7.30pm! Last night I brought him in when he woke the first time (about 10.30pm). I actually think he slept slightly better - he woke and went back to sleep no problems the first time he woke, but then he woke at 4.30am and wouldn't go back to sleep then. I can't tell if him sleeping in our bed really does anything to help.
Lollybaby: We haven' wrapped DS since he was 2 months - he used to wriggle out of it, and he slept fine when we stopped (all those months ago). DS sleeps in a cot in his own room. He slept in a bassinet until he was 4.5 months, and moved into his cot (which was then in our room) without any problems. We then moved him into his own room at 6.5 months. He sleeps fine in his cot through the day, so I don't know if the sleeping environment is the problem - though of course I'll never really know.
It's possible something in his room is distracting him. He has some soft toys in his cot... We've started using a night light recently, cause I thought maybe the pitch black was scaring him, but the night light hasn't made things any better, or any worse.
Ali: I've PM's you - thanks hun . Sound machine / music might be worth a go actually. I've never tried anything like that. I tried DS with a dummy ages ago, and it worked for about a week until he decided it was a toy. Now I give him a dummy, he pulls it straight out to look at it, then chews on it or shakes it like a rattle.
Winter: I'll try that too, going in and talking to him - I'll try almost anything the way I'm feeling today.
Haha - if all else fails your set up may be what we end up doing - cause when he wakes up that early there's really nothing we can do with him to get him to sleep.
Thanks for all your replies - keep 'em coming, I'm desperate!
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. Am really struggling. Was in tears this morning. He was up at 4.30am - clearly still tired but would not go back to sleep no matter how much I tried.
I've only just seen this. PM me your address. I will send you my book called Baby Bliss by Jo Ryan. Worked really well. We also have a sound machine in dd's room and I always put it on the heartbeat sound. It is very rhythmic and i even fall asleep to it.
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