Hi MJK,

You're situation sounds very like mine, however I've only been co-sleeping/feeding for 6mths, so I won't be much help! A book you may also find useful is The Sleep Book by the Sears (William & Martha). They talk a lot about co-sleeping and offer good suggestions for a range of scenarios as well.

As for night feeding, I really struggle with night feeding as i don't know how to tell the difference between needing to feed and it being a "habit". I put Ari's dummy in and if she settles I assume it was just comfort but if she fusses more, I feed her. With DS he jsut grew out of it once we sorted the feeding to sleep assosication.
Saram, I'm having a similar issue at the moment and am considering the "Pantley's Pull Off" method when my son gets a bit better from a cold. Regarding the dummy, did you get that because Ari was sucking your boobies all night? How did you sort out the feeding to sleep association with your son?

(sorry to hijack a bit of your thread)