Kat - Hope my response isn't too delayed

Re the Grandparents and Child care points - I ensure my Mum follows my bedtime routine pretty much exactly, then DS knows what to expect and goes to sleep without too much fuss. (assuming Ivy's grandparents are accomodating)

Re childcare, I asked this question when I put Baileys name down at 3 centres and they all said they will do what you ask re your babies routine - when I said "What if he takes 30 mins to get to sleep" they said they are happy to do what the babies and parents are comfortable with, so you'd be surprised

Cant offer you any tips re the self settling part, have tried it here with no success, just ended up with one very upset baby and a heartbroken Mummy so went immediately back to rocking/cuddling to sleep, I figure I will soon miss these moments as its all flying by so quickly But I so get that sometimes you just need them to go to sleep, as Mummy needs some Mummy time!!