Leasha - First and foremost - You are a wonderful mum. I know that the times like these puts the doubt into you, and sometimes it makes you think "maybe they are right". No, they aren't. They are narrow minded. Completely lacking in imagination. There is more than one solution to every question.

Sleep school sounds like it could be a great idea. With Sam, my only recourse was to make sure he wore himself out by bedtime. he was just a big bundle of energy and cutting out any thing that contributed to that energy after a certain time and ensuring he was as active as possible was the only thing that made him start to sleep normally again.

Also she is denying you the day sleeps - so your potential nap. With Haz I learnt the hard way that as wonderful and blissful as it is to have him napping and giving me me time - I would regret it horribly that night when because of his nap, he wouldnt be tired until 2am. So after a certain time, I also had to ensure they didn't take that nap. Getting a full nights blissful sleep easily trumped an hour and a half of peace and quiet.

Also I agree with the consistency. Certainly there are some times where you have to be flexible, but on routine, you have to make it as uncomplicated as possible so as not to confuse them. Harry knows full well now that if the lights are off, its bedtime and there is no compromise on that. It did take a while but now he just climbs into bed and drops off. The lack of light was important because it hid everything. There is nothing fun looking in their field of vision.

hope you can get some good sleep really soon.

Oh, and one very very important thing to remember - you can still love Jazz without liking her sleep patterns. You are entitled to that without being a monster. We don't have to love every little detail - and disliking one thing doesnt instantly translate into not loving them or not loving them enough.