Thanks heaps for that Danielle. I have had the same routine at bedtime, and actually nap time since she was born, so as she's changed ive had to make the routine a bit more flexible but seems that some unfavourable bits are hard to get out of the routine! like feeding her to sleep! nevermind, it took 2 minutes for her to go down for her nap before with no whinges and a feed, cuddle and pat so i guess i cant really complain!
i've just read somewhere that being able to fall sleep on their own is a life skill we're supposed to teach them and i guess that one sentence has stuck with me...more fool me!