In the meantime it sounds to me like you are doing a great job of understanding and meeting your DD's needs. I think the real problem is not that babies wake in the night, it's that parents are expected to have babies sleeping through so they do other things. Many mums feel pressure to have spotless houses, go back to work or study, and there is an expectation by the time your baby is 1 that you will be available to socialise regularly with friends etc and be able to stay up late. Things would be much easier for us all if society just accepted that babies wake in the nights and that parents need support to get through this, and time to get "back into life".
Good call MR

I'm not sure I have any helpful advice loulabelle, all I can do is add my voice to the chorus - My DS was the same. He's one of those kids who cannot sleep well unless all the stars are in alignment with Jupiter, or something. Things are a million times better now. Take whatever time out for rest and me-time that you can, and get your partner/family/friends to help you too, if you can. Sometimes that's really all you can do.