LOL Emma - I sat through the Jennifer Keyte video during the mothers group sessions telling Oscar not to listen to the bit about going to bed awake! I was a bit cheeky and kept making the sound that the 'wrong answer buzzer' on Sale of the Century used to make everytime we 'failed' at a point being made about how you 'should' do things with your baby...bit norty...but luckily my health nurse knows me and what I do not want to hear, so she never lectured me at appointments.
My mothers group tends to look at me as if I'm an anarchist anyway, because I don't tie myself in knots about getting Oscar to sleep, weaning, self-settling etc.
You do what you gotta do, and the only person you owe any explanation to is your kidlet and yourself No-one else, in the end, matters as far as opinions and advice go.