Big hugs Kris. I too know how you feel, Jack was 19 months when Tom was born. And Tom was very colicy and took so much time. I can tell you it gets easier. For us it was the magic 12 week mark, but it could be earlier for you. So while it seems like forever now, please keep in mind that this stage isn't going to go on for very long. I think knowing that can really help. I was picturing life being that way for a couple of years, but really, after the initial very nb stage passes things change a lot. It's still busy, but way more manageable.

IN the meantime, I agree with the idea of a sling. I couldn't have survived without one. Also I totally abandoned the routine Jack and I used to have and just went with the flow for a while. So if Tom was really unsettled I would bath him, and if I needed to do something with Jack at the same time he could have a bath too (Jack in the big bath and Tom in the baby bath in the bathroom, or all three of us in the big bath). Or I could take the boys for a walk - Tom in the pram or sling, Jack walking and/or pram. Usually that would put Tom to sleep and also be enough to wear Jack out so he would sleep when we got back. I guess if you can afford petrol there's always the option of a drive too. Just do what you can to get by. People worry about forming bad habits. My experience was that no such thing happened. Once the colic stage passed, Tom was able to put himself to sleep in his cot with no problems. Best of luck with it hun and I hope it passes soon for you.