No cry sleep solution sleep school

[~kellie~]

Hi everyone,
I went to a Tweddle sleep school today and wasnt very impressed, mainly cause I dont want my DD to cry herself to sleep... are there any sleep schools that use methods other than controlled crying?

[Willow]

Bugger Kellie, sorry you didn't find it helpful.

Never heard of Tweedle, but I'm surprised to hear that they still use controlled crying. We went to Tresillian and I was pretty impressed. They are very focused on mental health these days and yes, DS had a bit of a whinge but as soon as he sounded like he was getting a bit upset, we were straight in there. NO crying himself to sleep at all and in fact they actually talked me through why that is such a bad idea (of course I already knew all of that thanks to BB!!).

I have heard that other Tresillian centres aren't as good as ours either - it's a shame when there is so much inconsistency.

I hope someone can recommend somewhere better for you guys.

[~Trish~]

That's a shame they advocate CC Kellie. I didn't think sleep schools did that any more.

Willow - What did they tell you to do with L when he would start really crying?

[~kellie~]

they didnt actually call it controlled crying.
what i was instructed to do was put tahlia in her cot without wrapping and walk out. If she just grizzles and cries (but not really cry) leave her. If the crying gets really loud, wait 1 minute and walk in and pat her till she is calm, and then walk out. You then have to keep repeating this process until she stops crying, increasing the intervals you leave her for.

Is this considered controlled crying? It absolutely broke my heart to hear her cry like that (I've only heard her cry like that once before when she had needles) and I also ended up in tears.

[BellyBelly]

Did they call it controlled comforting instead

Sorry there is no such thing as a gentle sleep school, I can tell you now. Tweedle has a bad rep for being ungentle! In fact the stories Pinky has told me from some of the sleep schools horrify me and from what I have seen with my horrid two weeks at one.

Just doesn't exist - but I know Pinky dreams of setting one up with some good friends of hers. So expensive tho.

[Willow]

Kellie - that's controlled crying, whatever they called it!!

Trish - If L started crying, they told me to pick him up and cuddle and comfort him until he settled and then try to put him down again. He was pretty good so I don't know what would have happened if he'd gotten upset but there were 4 other babies in the unit and I can tell you in all honestly, none of them were left to cry. If they were crying, their mothers were with them comforting them. My nurse told me to follow my instincts - if I felt that he needed to be comforted, to comfort him. Pretty obvious stuff really!

BUT like I said, I have heard that not all the nurses at Tresillian share the same philosophies and there can be inconsistency but my nurse was into gentle methods all the way and my experience was really positive, so sorry Kelly, I'd have to disagree with you on this one based on my personal experience, but I do acknowledge that not all sleep schools, and not even all nurses within Tresillian are the same. Maybe I was just lucky?

There is also one nurse in particular on the help line who is AWESOME - really into baby wearing, and even told me to co-sleep! I was a bit surprised by that and whenever I strike her on the helpline I tell my DH - "I got the rogue hippy again!" LOL...