Hey Kellie.

We've just recently stopped wrapping DS and I gave him a soft toy to cuddle to sleep. I know what you mean about the SIDS risk, but I figured he was mobile enough for it not to be such an issue. It has worked well for us. He also has a dummy but not sure how much it helps him to sleep and he doesn't have it overnight, only during his day naps. Once he is over this cold, I'm thinking about getting rid of it all together. If I were you, I would avoid using one, but if its going to give her the comfort of sucking without needing to feed to sleep, then in that situation it may be the lesser of two 'evils'??

You said that she had improved prior to getting sick - why don't you just try going back to square one, doing whatever you originally did to get her to the point where she didn't need to feed to sleep?

The other thing that comes to mind is that I've seen people post about some sort of technique in the No Cry book about getting babies over the need to feed to sleep - might be worth looking at? I can't help in more detail on that one because DS has never fed to sleep.