I second the others you are not a bad mummy. It is so hard when you are exhausted and you just don't get a minute to yourself, let alone go to the bathroom! Personally, sometimes if DD wouldn't stop crying when I held her or bf her at this age so I would put her in her cot and let her cry while I went to the toilet or got something to eat (I had no one to call to come over). Since I decided it wouldn't make a difference at that point if I held her or not.
I was lucky DH would come home from work and just sit with her on his shoulder and pat her back until she went to sleep at night.
It does get better, and one day it just happens. At this age I think they just want to be held, feed and don't be surprised if she doesn't start self settling until about 12 weeks. Just keep trying everything you think, and you will find what works one day does/doesn't work another day. Wouldn't it be great if they had a manual.
Hang in there, you are being the best mummy by doing the best thing for your baby. I read that to be independant you first need to be dependant and I think that is what happens with babies. They learn how much they are loved and can go on to become independant.
Aw I'm sure you arent a bad mummy. Newborns are alot of hard work, trying to figure out what they want and worrying whether you are doing things the right way. Dont stress about having to pat/rock your bub to sleep at this age. Eventually she will do it all on her own, but you cant expect it to happen yet. Maybe give the dummy another go when she is a few weeks older. Otherwise I find Johnsons bedtime bath works very well. If you have a bassinet on wheels give rocking her to sleep in it a go. Good luck, as she gets older sleep time will become alot easier.
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