I just wanted to kind of repeat what others have said- it will be really tough and you have to be consistent. Don't give in, no matter what. That how I finally got ds to sleep in his bed after over a year of co sleeping. Although he is still waking and calling me in, but I can live with that
Thankyou to everyone who has replied and made suggestions! We need them, lol!!
Ok the plan so far is...
We will keep the dummies for now, but have stopped giving them to the kids in the day time.
DS will be going into his big boy bed in the room with DD over shrissy time, but I have started giving him some day sleeps in there to try to get him a bit used to it.
I have stopped all bf's for DS except for the going to bed feed and wake up feed. No more boo during the day for him! I will probably stop the morning feed soon too, before he goes into his new bed.
We will try leaving 100 (lol, exaggerating but I'm sure ykwim!!) dummies in the bed so they can find them by themselves through the night.
If necessary DH or I can sleep in the bed with the kids, but we would rather not start that, so that's only if we're really desperate! (Hmmmm, Maybe we just shouldn't do it....this will be up for discussion I think!)
Our bedroom will be moved back to it's usual way, so it is just not an option to bring the kids into our room. (At the moment we have a mattress on the floor for when DD comes in and she sleeps there with DH. DS is in his cot in our room. Cot will be taken down (*sob*) and the mattress put back under the bed. Then noone will be able to come into our room to sleep except us!
That's all we have at the mo, but I will refine it and put it in writing for when we are taking the plunge....still not for a about 6weeks or so yet until we are both off work.
Again thankyou to every one for your input, I appreciate your help
Maybe instead of planning to sleep with them you could have a comfy chair in their room. That way you have somewhere to rest if you feel they need you in there, but you aren't actually in bed with them. It would make it easier to leave when they are asleep.
So....we have put DS's bed up in DD's room and we have brought a portable aircon for their room because it gets unbelievably HOT in there some days.
The kids love the way their room is and DD know's that the other bed is for DS, even though he's not sleeping in there yet. DS absolutely loves the room and plays in there alot during the day. Tehy especially love jumping on the beds
So now everything is ready it's just a matter of waiting for the 2 weeks that DH and I have off work so we can do it together. I have stopped bringnig DS into my bed at night. He sleeps in his cot all night and some nights he has started sleeping through. If DD falls asleep in our bedroom, she will also sleep through the night, so she is just waking at night to come into our bedroom, not for any other reason. I am hoping that once they both get used to the fact that they will no longer be coming into our room they will both sleep through more often than not!
Just counting down the time now......
It sounds like you have made some massive steps in the right direction already, WELL DONE!! We are going to be going through the same thing over christmas as well. There have been heaps of great suggestions already but I wonder if you would me making one too. No matter what you and your DH decide you have to be consistent. Consistency is the key - we learnt this the hard way. Set a night time routine so they know what is happening as bed time approaches. When settling your kids make sure that you and DH do exactly the same thing so that your kids know what you want/expect of them. They say you need to give at least three nights before you see any improvement/change. My kids are so stubborn it took us a week. Wishing you the best of luck. YOU CAN DO IT!!!
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lilias, you must be exhausted.
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