Thankyou to everyone who has replied and made suggestions! We need them, lol!!

Ok the plan so far is...

We will keep the dummies for now, but have stopped giving them to the kids in the day time.

DS will be going into his big boy bed in the room with DD over shrissy time, but I have started giving him some day sleeps in there to try to get him a bit used to it.

I have stopped all bf's for DS except for the going to bed feed and wake up feed. No more boo during the day for him! I will probably stop the morning feed soon too, before he goes into his new bed.

We will try leaving 100 (lol, exaggerating but I'm sure ykwim!!) dummies in the bed so they can find them by themselves through the night.

If necessary DH or I can sleep in the bed with the kids, but we would rather not start that, so that's only if we're really desperate! (Hmmmm, Maybe we just shouldn't do it....this will be up for discussion I think!)

Our bedroom will be moved back to it's usual way, so it is just not an option to bring the kids into our room. (At the moment we have a mattress on the floor for when DD comes in and she sleeps there with DH. DS is in his cot in our room. Cot will be taken down (*sob*) and the mattress put back under the bed. Then noone will be able to come into our room to sleep except us!

That's all we have at the mo, but I will refine it and put it in writing for when we are taking the plunge....still not for a about 6weeks or so yet until we are both off work.

Again thankyou to every one for your input, I appreciate your help