Seems I spoke too soon. Am back in his room now, first wake up about 10mins ago. This kind of illustrates the ramdomness. He hasn't woken in the mid evening for ages, usually its around the 2-3am mark.

MadB - sometimes he does sleep well in our bed and sometimes not. But you've raised a good point in that my response to his waking has become variable again and depends on how tired I am, what else is going on, whether i'm sick etc (cold + cough atm for example). One of the guiding principles of unconditional parenting, which i'm trying to do more of, is to look at the situation from the child's perspective. I can do that no worries during the day but I'be just realised I don't do it so well at night. I have no idea what posseses him to wake so consistently at some point pretty much every night or resist sleep when he's tired. I love sleep lol and I can't seem to empathise with him like I did during his first year.

I might just try having a consistent response and really try to be more available because I think he knows on some level i'm resenting it and that insecurity is making it worse.

Thanks for the replies. They helped.

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