Its a really hard thing to try to get your husband to understand how important it is for you and bubs when it comes to co sleeping! We co sleep but DH is out of the bed by midnight to start work, so thats good for DS and i but when Ds wants to come in earlier we usedto have abit of a problem!
I explained to Dh how important it is for me and that i get a lot more sleep when we co sleep! Dh was sleeping on a mattress in our room for a while but know he just sleeps with us! He really enjoys it now!
If you can try to make him understand how it important it is for you maybe he will start to enjoy it more?
I dont know if i am making sense but hopefully it helped?
My favourite line is when he says to me "but I don't sleep as well when he's in out bed, because I'm worried I will squash him" - says he that doesn't wake up to his cries when he is on our bed. As opposed to DS ebing in the cot and I make DP get up in the cold and get him AND put him back to bed, because he's the one that doesn't want me to cosleep. So I get to stay warm and snug!
Can you simply put the cut in your bedroom? It's not as easy, but it makes my DP happy. It's still classified as co-sleeping, it still means you don't have to get out of bed, and it's still some form of independence for your baby - so an easier transfer down the line.
I think part of the problem is that guys aren't cuddly creatures so they can't comprehend the "babies just want to be near their mummies" thing. And yet when DS is in the cot in his bedroom he wakes every three hours, and if he sleep with me, he sleeps most of the night.
I love co-sleeping and would still do it - if only little wiggle-bottom didn't push the two of us out of bed and sleep worse. We co-slept until DS was 10m old, he wanted his own bed by then and refused to sleep with me.
He has to be SUPER scared or SUPER ill to co-sleep now. Even then he doesn't really want to go to sleep but he will, given time. (And we only do it because I'm tired and cold and DH won't get out of bed so blow it I'll get into DS's, like last night.) He is so much happier when he wakes up after co-sleeping.
Get your DH to get up to fetch the baby each time he wakes. That works well. My DH slept on a camp-bed in another room for a while when he "needed" sleep (I didn't, apparently). Not ideal but it does work.
I sleep with both my boys! I love it!
Zak is almost 4 and xander will be 2 at the end of the year.
I couldnt bare to have them in another room at night so we brought a king size bed so we could all fit!
I love being so close to them. They are such loving kids.
I wouldnt have it any other way!
You poor thing Laurab. Have you had a chat with DP yet? Perhaps you could talk about it and reach a compromise?
Have you thought about when YOU would ideally like to have your son move to his own bed? haha maybe never, they are pretty cuddly! But if you were thinking maybe around one for instance, perhaps you could say that you'll revisit the situation at 6 months, making no promises either way IYKWIM?
Hi Laura.
Does he have his day time sleeps in the cot? Maybe you could compromise a little and have him go to sleep in the cot at whatever time you put him down for the night (our time tends to be about 9ish) and when he wakes up bring him to your bed for the rest of the night. That is what I do occasionally, so much easier than getting out of bed again!!
Are you worried about SIDS if he is not sleeping with you? You could get one of those monitors that has the motion sensor thing too. They are a little dear but you can't put a price on peace of mind.
I HTH a little It's never easy when we disagree with our DH
Thanks for all you ideas guys
Last night I had a chat to DH about how I was feeling and he agreed to let me move the cot into the bedroom for now.Little does he know I plan on taking off one of the sides and pushing it right up next to the bed so he can be right next to me!It took some convincing but I got want I want.He says only for a month or two...i'll tackle that hurdle when I get to it.
I love my little man and I just can't bare the thought of him waking up scared and insecure because I'm not there.
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