Hey Skye

It's tricky knowing what to do isn't it! We were the same as you, then at 6 months we decided to get rid of the dummy and wrap (like you we thought it was too hot, even with a light wrap, and then if she had her arms free when she wasn't wrapped then DD would whack her dummy out, cry etc).

It took us probably 2 weeks of having a tough time getting her down her sleeps while unwrapped, with no dummy. And even over the weeks following that, she still had a few hassles getting to sleep but these times became less and less frequent. And now, I have to say it's great not having to use a dummy or a wrap.

We aren't into letting DD cry either so we wanted a gentle approach to weaning her off the dummy and wrap. Things we did were:

-get her to have some/occassional day sleeps in the pram (so getting her used to going to sleep without sucking, and using less and less rocking each time).
-Wrapping her slightly differently, as in letting her have one arm bent and positioned across her chest rather then being pinned down beside her (sorry- difficult to describe!), then looser and looser until she would pop her arm out.
-Putting a toy in her cot to grab- to occupy her hands and take her focus off rubbing her eyes while going to sleep.
-Another thing we did is when she wouldn't settle with just patting her in bed, (which I'm sure everyone would disapprove of this!) was- if she got too upset with her arms out (and was missing the dummy) then I would give her a little feed/suck, then pop her back in bed after a few mins (while she was still awake but relaxed) and pat her. Then if she got distressed again after a few mins, I would give her another tiny suck, then keep doing this (putting her in then feeding her very briefly if she was too distressed) until she settled in the cot with a gentle pat and went to sleep. I know people would be horrified with letting her comfort suck like that! hehe, but it honestly worked really well. It just seemed to help her unwind gradually and get used to the idea that she was going into her cot to sleep, but mummy was still there). This is just what worked for us! And it didn't turn her into always wanting booby to go to sleep either like everyone would say!

I do believe though, that some bubs may not be ready to give up the dummy or wrap this early and that it needs to be the right time for them. We always said that if it was too much of a drama to wean her then we would stop and try again a few months down the track, but it was ok in the end.

Best of luck! Don't be worried to keep using them even though others aren't.