Skye, you are doing a great job with your son.

I agree that you should do what you feel is right for you and your baby and try not to worry about what other babies are doing as they are all so different.

With my DD she didn't have a dummy so no suggestions, sorry. 3 months they probably do need some comfort, my dd sticks two fingers in her mouth, which I have no idea about stopping later on!!

With the wrap I started wrapping under the arms around 3 months through the day so that she started getting used to not being wrapped and I am a sleeping bag fan having used grobags and no blankets with my son until he moved to a 'big bed'. I used to still wrap at night in the thinnest cotton material I could find and just had my mum sew a hem around the edges. Gradually I stopped wrapping at night and went to the sleeping bag.

Even now, (which some people probably frown at) my dd needs something to hold and rub on her face so I put the wrap over her (like a blanket) and she knows it is time to go to sleep. I also found patting works for the comfort if they are not too upset and think it is a great thing for them to use as comfort because it will continue to work as they get older (my 3 yo sometimes asks to be patted to go to sleep).

Goodluck and hope some of the great advice on this thread works for you.