Sarah, I actually didn't realise you had issues with Zander's sleep. It's hard going, I know, and my DS is alot younger! TBH, I don't tell that many people that we have any sleep issues to start with, so that saves alot of unwanted advice and comments. Those that we do tell usually don't offer advice, because it's obvious that we've worked to improve things for DS, so they're sensitive enough to realise that! And for those that we do get unwanted advice from, well, I pick and choose my responses. Sometimes I just nod and smile and say 'oh that sounds like it was helpful for you' (like I did this morning to someone who asked if we'd read babywise ), sometimes I explain that we're not into CIO, and sometimes I just say that we think that our DS is simply not a good sleeper, and now that we've accepted that life is alot easier! It really depends on who it is, and whether or not I can be bothered explaining our history, and reasoning behind our decisions.

I hope you can find some solutions Sarah, it is hard going, especially when the 'well-meanings' try to help. I had people suggesting all sorts of things a year ago, and then we found out that DS had allergies and sensitivites that were seriously affecting his sleep, and sometimes behaviour. Once we removed them he was soooooo much better, and I could say to people 'wow, wasn't it great that we didn't leave him to cry, when all that time he had something that was bothering him!'. That felt really good, I can tell you . I hope there is a similarly simple solution for you guys . And if it turns out that he's just not that great a sleeper (as I suspect my DS is), well be comforted with the knowledge that you won't be the one to live with it forever!!!!