I put her in her cot when she starts to get grumpy and sleepy. I give her her night bottle and a spitrag tag to hold and put her dummy next to her. I will stroke her tummy while she drinks and say I love you and walk out. She will then either go to sleep by finishing her bottle and putting her dummy in herself, OR she will cry and I go in (no talking or eye contact) and lay her down again, put the dummy in and stroker her tummy a while and walk out. I repeat that if nessesary till she falls asleep by herself. Some night it just don't work AT ALL and DH take us for a ride out of town, usually as a last resort when it is already WAAAAAAY past her bedtime and he see that I am getting a bit frustrated. God bless him!!!!