Thanks everyone. We had a slightly better night last night, but still not great. He ended up co sleeping with us most of hte night, which is what we started with when he was younger, just now hes getting bigger and squirming and DP and I have no bed! LOL
Not really into controlled crying. It's just not my thing. I can't stand the thought of him crying when he doesn't have to. I don;t think it would work, because he works himself up after just a minute.

He still sleeps in our room... maybe this could be a problem?? He is not right next to the bed, but only a few steps away. At this point in time, there is no heating in his soon to be bedroom, so whilst it's freezing cold over winter, I was planning on keeping him in with us, and moving him out when the weather starts to warm up.
I thought he had pretty average sleep patterns during the day. He sleeps till 9am with me... ( on and off.. I try as hard as I can to stay in bed as long as possible to try and get some sleep), then up for brekky, play and then down around 1130/12 for 2 hours, up for lunch, play, snack, down at around 3 for an hour, up for a snack, play, dinner,bath every 2nd night ( due to eczema), and then he will start to get tired at 730/8pm, which I then put him into bed for.
Most of the time, he wakes around 930, for a feed adn thinks its play time again. If we are lucky, he will go down at 11, and sleep till 1ish for another feed... and so on until 7am where he will usually sleep until 830/9am.
When he's put to bed, he doesn't normally whinge, just puts his dummy in, head down, and off he goes. Sometimes if he's overtired, he'll whinge a little, but after about 10 mins he's out like a light.

He dosen't always follow this routine. like today, where he only slept an hour between 1030 and 1130, and then an hour between 2and 3, and has just gone down now at 5pm.

ANyway, Just wanted to show his approximate routines, and see if anyone can find anything that I might be able to change? I don;t like the idea of trying to keep him awake during the day too much, as I have tried it before and it didnt work. When he's tired, he just wants to sleep, which is fair enough, cos I am the same.