Gosh it's irritating, isn't it?? bewqare: rant following.

One of the reasons I love this website is the anonymity: from this you can probably guess we haven't told anyone we are thinking of TTC in the soon-er-not-too-distant-future.

I desperately want to avoid any questions. No-one's business except our own. Not that we haven't had any questions about when we're going to have babies. DH is a terrible "put-'em-off-the-scent-er" and generally says they should ask me. So of course by the time they come to see me, they're already convinced we're trying because DH has a stupid grin on his face and doesn't have the wherewithal to say "No" or "NOYFB" or "You'll find out when we're pregnant and not before". Thanks, mate. I should be thankful he's a crap liar, I suppose!! And we're not really officially hard-core trying to conceive yet, either. God forbid what it'll be like...

I wonder if anyone else will relate to this? I am reluctant to tell any friends because they generally fall into three categories:

a) no way, they're not ready to "pop one out", are you kidding??: therefore the whole concept is not something they are ready or willing to grasp yet.
b) they're desperate to find a partner and then "pop one out" as quickly as possible: therefore I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But it's also going to be hard to be wailed at that I have to wait for them because they want to have babies when I do. (Why should I have to base my decision on what life stage they're at??)
c) imminent "poppage of one out" within the next year, after career milestones being reached. We all know what's going on in each other's minds but everyone's very "private". We all want to have kids around the same time but no-one's willing to speak their mind. I foresee months of secretiveness as everyone tries to hide it and watches for restricted consumption of coffee, alcomohol or brie! Unfortunately consensus is I'll be the first one to "pop one out" as I am not in the same career path or income bracket. I doubt anyone'll tell anyone before 20 weeks anyway which seems like a long lonely wait.

I guess we'd need to think about when would be a good time to tell family. We'd want to tell them first, but probably not immediately.

However I wonder if I'll need a support network, in which case we might tell a few friends in category c, but again not immediately. Unfortunately this means one or two others (category B) will be insanely p***ed off when they finally hear and wail and cry at not being told too. What the hell does one do in that situation??