4 months ttc,, possible infection or damage??

[RhiChiChi]

Definately go to the Dr regarding that past incident.

A 'healthy' couple can take 6-12 mths to conceive. There was no issue on my side of the family but it took us 13 months to conceive our DD and this baby is an IVF baby after 3.5 years of trying. My sister is older than me by 18 mths and is pg with her first, it took 8 mths and she is 37 yo. Everybody is different. Have you thought about charting your cycles to pinpoint ovulation so you know when to DTD? This was what made the difference for my sister. GL

[molli]

Definately go to the Dr regarding that past incident.

A 'healthy' couple can take 6-12 mths to conceive. There was no issue on my side of the family but it took us 13 months to conceive our DD and this baby is an IVF baby after 3.5 years of trying. My sister is older than me by 18 mths and is pg with her first, it took 8 mths and she is 37 yo. Everybody is different. Have you thought about charting your cycles to pinpoint ovulation so you know when to DTD? This was what made the difference for my sister. GL

I have thought about charting my cycles, but it wouldn't make any difference because we DTD every day anyway. So I don't see any point in creating more stress and work for myself.

[juniper76]

You could consider charting for a few cycles just to confirm that you are O'ing. I agree that it sounds like there's no worries about your timing. When I went to my GP to ask for a referral to my FS she was interested in seeing my charts to confirm that I was actually O'ing every cycle. My FS, on the other hand, couldn't be less interested...

You might also want to keep in mind that, in some cases, every day is too often for a man to build good sperm and every other day is a better option. I'm not saying that's the necessarily case for your partner; just be aware that it's true for some men. More is not always better.

[molli]

You could consider charting for a few cycles just to confirm that you are O'ing. I agree that it sounds like there's no worries about your timing. When I went to my GP to ask for a referral to my FS she was interested in seeing my charts to confirm that I was actually O'ing every cycle. My FS, on the other hand, couldn't be less interested...

You might also want to keep in mind that, in some cases, every day is too often for a man to build good sperm and every other day is a better option. I'm not saying that's the necessarily case for your partner; just be aware that it's true for some men. More is not always better.

My partner is very fertile, he got two other women pregnant really quickly, and apparently his last gf was always going to the abortion clinic. which is kind of a bit sickening, and makes me feel really bad. I don't think it's a problem for him to have sex every day, it's usually not unless a man has a poor sperm count.

I don't think i really want to chart my cycles at this stage, as I am already very busy and get stressed quite easily. i think i will give it a few months, and then go and see the doctor if nothing has happened. i am still very worried the infection I got could have damaged my fertility somehow but maybe im being paranoid.