Thanks for your replies ladies, We half had a discussion only after a fight mind you about it and he said that his reasons for not wanting another is mostly financial, bigger house, bigger car and so forth. I tried to explain to him about the "urge" you feel for another baby but he just dosnt understand. A little background, I came from a family of 3 children (i have 2 older sisters) and he grew up just with his dad and his younger brother. I find it interesting that we both want the same amount of children that we had in our family.
After the birth of DS2 i thought i was fnished and i didnt want anymore and i said that to him at the time, then when i started feeling ready for another baby i started telling him and he claimed i had only ever told him i wanted 2 and no more, I had told him before in the past that i had wanted 3 since i was little and he said i had just all of a sudden hit him with the want for another baby, really when is it a good time to say hey hunny guess what i want a baby! you know what i mean?

Im almost 29 and i dont want to be having a baby in my mid 30s plus i dont want a big gap. DS1 and 2 are 2yrs 10 months apart and as it is even if we fell this month we would be looking at the same gap again. i dont want much more of a gap then that.

I guess we do find it a bit difficult sometimes to have a proper chat about things and i dont know when i should try again to talk to him.

I think i might sit on it for a little while or maybe write him a letter to see if i can get through to him that way. its worth a shot!
Thanks again ladies