I have two beautiful boys.
My husband would love a daughter, but I'm not sure.
I had a painful las few weeks of my last pregnancy and was induced early.
We only have one income and a 3 bedroom house, not sure how it would go.
I don't want to disappoint my husband, but is it the right thing to do?
Hi Catherine - we had this dilemna too. We had decided that 2 children was enough, and then one day we changed our minds. Life is short and our family is everything to us, so we thought we could definitely love another child. It really is a decision you both have to agree on though. Our original decision was based on what we wanted to provide for our girls - Good schools, lots of extra-curricular activities etc. We then realised that money isn't everything and we can give our children a happy life with lots of wonderful memories without having to spend heaps of money.
We too have 3 bedrooms, so our older girls will be sharing a room, and bubs will have her own room. (until the eldest turns the age when she wants her privacy lol)
Good luck with your decision.
A friend of mine went through this last year. They already had 2 girls, and he desperately wanted a boy, and she didn't want any more children. After a few months they decided to have another baby. It turned out to be another girl, but they are over the moon, and wouldn't change anything now. They too have a 3 brm house, and just make do with what they've got.
I think if you're unsure, then take some more time to decide if this is what you both really want.
That's a hard one. I have two girls (one from a previous marriage) and DH who absolutely loves the two girls, would LOVE to have a boy too, but I'm not so sure how I would cope with two close together (I know, many mothers do it!) as I've not had to worry about that with a 9 year gap! With bub only 4 months old and my clock ticking, I have a decision to make. DH is not putting on any pressure, but I know how much it will mean to him.
Also, there are no guarantees that the next bub would be a boy, so he would need to be comfortable with yet another female in the house!
As for how many bedrooms you have, I was one of four children and we lived in a 3 bedroom house until we all moved out and we turned out ok (well, we reckon we turned out ok!). I shared a room with my sister and while I hated her guts when we were growing up (as siblings tend to do at times) we're very close now.
i don't think that a 3 bedroom house would be a problem at all, i grew up in a 3 bedder with 3 little sisters and we didn't know any different so were never worried about it. We plan on having 3 probably and we only have a 3 bedder small house. the only thing that worries me is being outmunbered by kids, but it will be fun for them to be able to gang up on us all the time!
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