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    Default Help, I'm TTC and frustrated

    Everytime a month goes by and I get a period, I have a bit of a cry. We've been TTC for about 6 or 7 months now, I know compaired to some others that's not long.



    I'm 24 in March, hubby is 27 next week. I've done so much research and know my cycle so well. We're doing everything right and nothing happens.

    It seems that everyone around me is falling pregnant. My sister just told me that she's expecting her second child, with her first child and now the one that's on the way, they just happened by "accident" which really frustrates me, but I am looking forward to having another niece or nephew though, I just want my own child and soon!

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    Danni,

    Oh wow you sound like me. I really thought this whole TTC thing would be easy and that i'd come off the OCP and i'd be pg first go. 9 mths later i'm coming to realise i had no idea. Every time i get my period i cry and rant and rave to DP about what could possibly be wrong with me. But then the next day i'm over it and i'm making plans for the next months BDing and everything else i need to do. just seems like a continual cycle that i can't see any end to.

    I also was very unfortunate (or fortunate, depending on how you look at it) to have my SIL, fall pg about 3 mths into me TTC. Boy was that a blow! I think i cried for a month straight and then when i got my period that cycle i cried some more! But like you said i'm now really looking forward to being a part of my nephews life. I also have just had to come to terms with my sister falling pg! Now i'm not so happy about that one.

    I can't really offer you any advice, because I am going through exactly the same thing. but i wanted to give you a big
    All I can say is that BB is a great place to be a part ofl. Come join us in the 6+mth TTC thread. The ladies in there are so friendly and helpful. They really do help you get through the low times and they are also there for the good times as well!

    I hope you join us in that thread.

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    ((hugs)) Dani, it's hard isn't it? I know how you feel. We've been TTC for 5 months now and I have to use clomid to O, even though it seems to be working we still haven't fallen. Its so frustrating and I can't understand why.

    I understand about everyone else getting pg too! My SIL just announced she is expecting her second. Of course I am excited about being an Aunty again, but did wish it was me first!

    I keep telling myself everytime that AF arrives that egg wasn't my baby. I have one gorgeous DS and it took 8 months to concieve him and he is just perfect! I'm so glad that every egg in the 7 months before him went un-caught because they couldn't have turned into a boy as beautiful as Evan !!! ((oh now he's having a tanty about not getting a biscuit straight after dinner hmm))

    Anyway, this whole TTC thing is frustrating, and stressful. Come over into the TTC buddies (if you haven't already)- you'll find heaps of support there from us lot going through exactly the same things.

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    Thanks, it's nice to know that there are others out there feeling the same way.

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    Hi Danni

    Hang in there! I'm not really where you are at the moment as this is only my first month but I have heard that healthy couples can take 6-12 months to conceive. I know it must be frustrating for you both.

    I know some people (out of frustration) have given up on the charting, temperature taking etc and they got their BFP because there wasnt so much pressure placed on them. They may even have conceived because their bodies were so much more relaxed than usual and less stressed about the outcome.

    Just think, when it does happen, your baby will be soooooo loved and soooooo wanted. I hope the end is in sight for you shortly.

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    Hiya Danni,
    This is my 3rd month of TTC, so I "kind of" know what you are going through - but I really feel for you having tried for that much longer. I have 13 neices and nephews - a sister is pretty much pg every year! It has never bothered me before, but lately it is a lot harder to deal with. Like, you wonder what is wrong? Like if you could get a microscope and peer into your body, would you see a healthy eggie? Being confronted by an amorous sperm? Then they play together and the little bundle snuggles into your womb? Or is it just empty?? I know this sounds crazy, but it is happening INSIDE us and we don't even know where it goes wrong.

    but there IS a reason why it isn't happening. Really, it is such a remarkable balance of hormones, timing, etc that it is amazing that it actually does happen at all.

    I can only offer the one thing that gives me comfort - it WILL happen eventually. And there is so much stuff out there now that can help where nature fails.

    Good luck *hugs*

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    daniellabella, it is such an emotional rollercoaster and I hope you find BB forums will ease some of that anxiety & disappointment for you. I have found, for me, that BB forums really DO show that so many people are doing all the right things, know SO much about their cycle - and still, even say around 25 girls are on the 1-6 mth TTC thread at the moment, usually only around 1-4 people fall pregnant each "cycle" of TWWers. My GP yesterday said, that 12 months of TTC (timed intercourse) is normal for falling pregnant.
    It's very frustrating, especially when you're doing "all the right things", but I guess noone really knows what specifically it is. Maybe we're just waiting for a little baby soul to choose when the time is right.
    It's a rollercoaster for sure - every time I get my AF, I feel really really low, and start ringing around making specialist appointments. Then when I get closer to O, I suddenly feel all optimistic, and ring around and delay or cancel those appointments !!! Weird, hey !! Then of course the TWW is excruciating.
    So you're not alone but we are hear for you - you get your BFP this cycle !!!

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    I felt the same as you when we got to that point but then we fell pg unfortunatley our baby is now an angel but we did fell pg after 7 mths of trying when we both stood back and said ok this will happen but i wont if we keep stressing.. That final month Sept/oct I found BB and FF and charted my cycle for the first time and we fell pg, but at the same time i was talking to myself at times when i was stressing and worrying that it will happen and if it doesnt this month then thats ok because our baby will be just around the corner... I know this isnt what you want to hear but it does happen..

    A few questions:

    Do you know that you definately oing?? I.e temping??
    Have you been on the pill b4 trying??

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    Thank you all for your words of wisdom.

    Yes I have been on the pill before trying, I was on the pill for about 3 years. I've only just started doing the charting but I'm not doing it properly yet (I'm just doing the CM and stuff like that, not the temp because I don't have a thermometre yet)

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    i found tempting and charting was helpful but be relaxed about it... i was only ttc for 3 cycles so i know i don't fully understand what you are going through but in my experience when i relaxed (we actually went on holiday) i didn't take my thermometer with me and we just bd'd when we felt like it and when i got back i just estimated temps and it turned out i was pregnant... anyway i know i am rambling but my point is although temping and charting are great because it helps you get to know your body the only thing i believe helped me fall was that i was relaxed about it all this time as apose to the other cycles...

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