How do you keep your mind off TTC because hubby doesnt think its the right time

[Stevie]

ALL i can think about is having another baby!! Putting the last peice of the puzzle in place that is our family (one more bubba and thats it) but DH is all "No", " We want to travel", "we cant afford it", "Wait until the end of next year"
I want our babies close together. My baby is nearly one and a half i think now is the best time!!

How do i keep my mind off it for the next 2 years
better yet how do i convince DH to do it now

Ps. ive reminded him that just because we decide to TTC doesnt make me pregnant tomorrow that it could take us months to be UTD!!

[~Hestia~]

I feel for you darl, once you're in that mindset it's very hard to distract yourself I hope he comes around soon.

[Stevie]

I feel for you darl, once you're in that mindset it's very hard to distract yourself I hope he comes around soon.

Thanks sweet, me too!!

[Curlygirly]

Oh Stevie! I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I always knew I wanted a bub with my DH from when we met But he was making excuses too, actually constantly until recently.lol But it wa so frustrating, I waited for atleast 6 good years and the entire time I did ALL the tricks to convince him eg: "Your getting older", "I'm getting older", "Love is enough", " I finished my studies now it's time", " TTC will take time (Then I fell pregnant right away)" lol.

So I figured I would channel my wanting to have a baby in my studies (Fertility management). I think that's how I got through it but still would talk about it alot to DH cos I couldn't help it. I remember the day finally DH said yes.... He had just spent time with his friends that had kids and over a glass of red wine and dinner we/he agreed it was time (FINALLY

So my suggestion is stay calm and cook your DH a romantic dinner with a few red wines and really have a heart felt conversation with him. Explain that you are a woman and you can't help the way you naturally feel for the desire to have children. Remind him that you love him so much that to carry his children is the greatest gift you can give him (Yes sounds dramatic I know) but it's true because the desire never really leaves...trust me I know hunny. But it's weird once my DH took the plunge he now says "once you have one then others will just slide into the picture as they come." I hope he comes round for you soon and understands where you are coming from and finds a even compromise.

If you need distraction maybe enrol in a course/study that interests you or even a hobby class G/L darling.x

[~Ash~]

I understand how you are feeling too! I have been so beyond clucky for months now - we have talked about it a few times but no definite plans are ever made.

My plan is to sit down with my DP and make a 5 year plan together - that way I can show him that the sooner the better time wise. That way you can plan the travel and everything else too - and you both know where you are heading and when.

It is just so frustrating to want to take that step when you can't - hang in there though I hope he comes around soon!!

[Jennifer13]

I have just waited about 18 months for DP to decide it's time!!! It can be very frustrating, but I let go and told him he knew how I felt, I wouldn't be changing my mind, but I wasn't going to hassle him (and he'd already been given every reason that I wanted to TTC LOL) and to let me know when he was ready. Because really both of us need to be 100% for it and just because the timing worked for me didn't mean it did for him (for whatever reason, in his case less definitive than your DH!). And I really did let it go, didn't bring it up, didn't hassle him, didn't remind him, even subtly.

He started to notice how many friends were either having difficulty TTC or were TTC but seemed to not take it seriously and he was a bit surprised, he thinks you shouldn't mess around, etc, etc. It only took him less than two months and he decided he was ready as well. Could've knocked me over with a feather!

Give him some time. If you're sure he understands how much you want it, he needs to think about it himself. GL!

(PS Trying to distract yourself in the meantime is very difficult! I think I prayed daily.)

[Starlite]

I totally get where your coming from. It took me 5 1/2 years to get DP to agree to a baby!! DS is 8 months old and I want to start working on #2 in afew months, at first DP wanted a 4 year gap between babies, he was adamant!!!!! But I want a MUCH smaller gap. I have been working on him for months, and finally he has come around. I think talking to him about it so much (almost constantly, lol) has put ideas in his head, I think he started to accepted it and even be happy about more babies soonish. Now he uses it as an excuse to get out of arguments, as a bribe for going to the pub, whenever it suits him really, lol. Soon he's going to think it is all his idea.... lol. We have agreed to start TTC when DS turns 1.

Untill then, it's all I can think about... no idea how to distract myself. I just do my best to put all my energy into DS. I also come on sites, and discuss with friends who understand how excited I am... having someone/somewhere to let all your feelings about wanting a baby out is sort f healing... lol, i i had to bottle up all the thoughts and emotions i think i'd go crazy!!!