m&d2b TTC is such a rollercoaster for so many of us, sometimes it's easy, sometimes it is far far from it. I dont think you just automatically know you're ready; for me, the only way I knew I was ready waaaaay back in the beginning was the gut wrenching devastation that we hadnt fallen pregnant that very first month. I knew when AF arrived that I wanted a baby and I wanted it NOW! Sounds like the thought of a baby is consuming your every thought, could be your ready, could be you're grieving your loss .
Having a baby wll change your relationship, sure! Especially when it has just been the 2 of you for so long, DH and I were just us 2 for 9 years before DD was born and it rocked the entire basis of our lives and relationship. But having has those years of just us, it wasnt anything we couldnt get through.
As for the money, home etc, you can set yourself up all you like, during the next 18 years and beyond things will change, you will go through times of cash everywhere and times of oh crap, how can we pay that bill.
*hugs* I also think there is never a perfect time, there will always be something to stress about be it bills, work, family problems etc. Hopefully you and DH can talk it through and maybe you will decide to start TTC again x good luck
Lot's of hugs lovely I'm sure people think we're crazy having a second after DH decided to go back to Uni but we're doing it and it feels right. Trust your instincts....you can have all the money in the world but that won't make the decision any easier I say go for it! You can never be prepared for what life throws at you.
oh wow. thank you all so much for your kind words and stories. you're all right. there is NO perfect time for a baby, and if you continued to wait... we'd all be too old.
i asked DF last night if he would spare 5 minutes to read this thread, he did he loved all your replies and thanks you all too
his reasons for being a bit iffy on having a baby now, is because life for us right now is really great. perfect jobs, new house, no debts etc. which to me, is a great time to TTC, but he doesn't want me to miss out on working, to be a SAHM, which i'm totally fine with that, i don't want to miss our child growing up. i guess it's a bit scary thinking we'll be living off 1 wage, but many families do. so i'm sure we will cope.
he wants to wait and find out what's happening with my job next year, before we set anything in stone. he really does want a baby, his anxiety does mess with him a little bit though. as he worries about every possible outcome etc.
anyway, thank you all so much for your replies, you really have no idea how much it helped me/us
Last edited by Mummy&Daddy2Be; December 6th, 2012 at 09:05 AM.
TTC is such a rollercoaster for so many of us, sometimes it's easy, sometimes it is far far from it. I dont think you just automatically know you're ready; for me, the only way I knew I was ready waaaaay back in the beginning was the gut wrenching devastation that we hadnt fallen pregnant that very first month. I knew when AF arrived that I wanted a baby and I wanted it NOW! Sounds like the thought of a baby is consuming your every thought, could be your ready, could be you're grieving your loss
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Thankyou thats lovely xx 
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